I have written quite a bit about narcissistic abuse recovery, for those who are survivors of this toxic form of emotional abuse. One of the first articles I wrote on the subject was entitled Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse: The Groundhog (Part III) for goodtherapy.org Please see my article highlighted above, as well as others in the series at goodtherapy.org , addressing the healing process of narcissistic abuse. Those who are entangled with an extreme narcissist may find the groundhog to be a fitting archetype... a creature who pops up sporadically here and there when it suits him/her, when trolling for narcissistic supply to fuel their fragile egos...and then, the groundhog goes back under ground again, afraid to face what is essential for a healthy relationship: compassion, compromise, accountability, honesty, integrity, authenticity, respect, empathy, and reciprocity, to name a few key elements. By avoiding the necessary growth of a mature adult, extreme narcissists miss out on love and healthy relationships. For those who have survived relationships with extreme narcissists, you are better off moving forward and connecting with a mature adult companion who is capable of those essential elements of a healthy relationship.
Andrea Schneider, MSW, LCSW