Looking forward to your publication. This looks interesting!
thank you Shari
I also cannot wait to get hands on your eBook. If it is anything like your articles it will be full of gems that will awaken those in slumber about narcissistic abuse. Even your visual about your book is fantastic........ so creative, yet very true of the dynamic of a narcissistic relationship (whether it be male or female)...... a little story board, brilliant!!
Christine...coming from you, that means soooo much! Thank you for your amazing support in this endeavor!
Love the illustrations look forward to the e-book, so creative and informative. Thank you Andrea!
Awesome Andrea! I cannot wait to read this!
Is there any hope that a narcissistic man can change to be more self absorbed and able to love and be loved on some level? Thank you!
That should be LESS self absorbed.
What a topping question Mary, "Can we change narcissist to be less self absorbed?". Unfortunately, I don't really have an answer for you, but perhaps I could offer some food for thought. Narcissists, by definition, are extremely self-focused and tend to see other people in terms of their usefulness rather than true friendship—not exactly a recipe for empathy. What I do know is that somewhere in the narcissists earlier development, they missed cultivating the skills needed to connect with others,and be able to feel part of a greater whole that give meaning to ones life.
Psychology knows that adolescence is a time when the youth is naturally very narcissistic, so perhaps this is the place where we could possibly bring about the change you are asking about. Research is being done to see if teachers can help students to avoid the joyless path of self-absorption before their brains become hard-wired. Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., (Director of the Greater Good Science Center and a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley) has shown "AWE" to be a potentially powerful positive emotion that might just help students develop empathy. Dacher’s lab has found that awe makes us feel very small and like we’re in the presence of something greater than ourselves. In a state of "awe" we also lose awareness of our “self” and feel more connected to the world around us. This is what true spirituality also teaches us.....Oneness.
Narcissism is on the increase, we are actually breading it in our children, and it is evident in the levels of selfishness that they are displaying. If everybody understood narcissism better, perhaps we could begin to eradicate it, or at least curb it. This would require a lot of education and co-operation from health professionals, social workers, teachers, doctors, etc. We need a counter balance to a world of materialistic values and mindfulness, and I think we could bring that back into the schools for laying a foundations where is may be lacking in a child's home. We could provide better parenting courses that include building up empathy in the child. I believe we need to catch unhealthy narcissism early in a person, and give them the chance to avoid developing pathological narcissism later in life. Read this article, I think it is very powerful work indeed that could well be implemented back into schools...... because a child's mind is full of awe and wonder that needs cultivating.
Love the illustration. Please let me know when it's out! Good luck!
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